The Kink of White Patriarchal Feminism
Unmasking Shame, Flagellation, and the Performance of Allyship in the White Feminine Psyche
A 4 part trauma-informed, somatic-based exploration for white women and femme-bodied folks doing racial justice work.
This offering blends the power-conscious lens of Therapeutic BDSM™ with emotional recovery and embodiment practices. Together, we will unpack how shame, guilt, and unconscious patterns of emotional flagellation show up—and how to move toward shared power and true relational accountability.
You’ve done the workshops. Read the books. Shared the posts. Apologized. Processed.
But embodiment? That’s another story.
You’ve intellectualized the work without letting it settle in your bones.
You’ve been shaped by the Matrix of Oppression and the Myth of White Innocence—told that your proximity to patriarchy makes you both complicit and disposable.
That your guilt is proof of your growth.
That suffering makes you safe.
So you keep showing up.
Performing allyship. Managing optics.
All while shrinking your soul, suppressing your desire, and severing your body from the work.
But your body remembers.
It knows that punishment ≠ practice.
It knows that shared power begins with sensation, with reckoning, with reclamation.
“We must break free from the performance of innocence and reclaim our power beyond the constructs of patriarchy”
The Kink of White Patriarchal Feminism
Unmasking Shame, Flagellation, and the Performance of Allyship in the White Feminine Psyche
This is not your typical training.
This is an embodied, power-conscious deep dive into the unconscious ways white women and femme-bodied folks reproduce harm—through guilt, performative allyship, and self-punishment disguised as growth.
Together, we’ll explore what it means to move beyond performative penance into embodied responsibility.
This is for those ready to unhook from the patterns of martyrdom and move toward mutuality, pleasure, and liberatory relating.
You won’t just think differently.
You’ll feel differently.
Because this work lives in the body.
This is for your if you’re ready too:
You feel like you’re always “trying to get it right” in justice work
You’ve experienced chronic guilt, disembodiment, or overfunctioning
You’re ready to move from performance to practice
You want to explore kink and power through a healing, consent-based lens
Program Highlights
The Performance of Innocence
Learn how white femininity has been historically weaponized as a tool of dominance—and how it lives in your social conditioning today.
Unconscious Flagellation & Guilt Cycles
Unpack the ways self-punishment, shame, and martyrdom masquerade as allyship and why your guilt isn’t the work.
Embodied Accountability Practices
Move from the mind into the body through somatic practices that root your awareness in sensation, presence, and shared power.
Reclaiming Desire & Power
Explore what it means to show up in right-relationship: not from shame, but from sovereignty, humility, and embodied relationality.
Live Facilitation & Practice Spaces
You’ll engage in 4 powerful 2-hour sessions with guided practices, partner work, and community reflection held with care, consent, and nervous system awareness.
Your Guide
Mystic. Recovery Guide. Certified Educator with the Therapeutic BDSM Collaborative Network.
I support collective healing at the intersection of grief, embodiment, and ethical power. I am no longer the face of a one-woman movement—I co-facilitate Check Your Privilege through the Heal Your Way Forward Collective, creating space for truth-telling, repair, and relational transformation.
I believe in collective liberation. I believe in common humanity. I’m pro-liberation, pro-healing, pro-justice, pro-wholeness, pro-growth, pro-abolition. Yea, all that!
I’m a human-first kind of person. First, because I know we’re all here trying to heal and do better and messing up is just part of that process. I’ve learned that my relationship to overthinking is rooted in colonial constructs of shame and perfectionism and I’m grateful to have the chance to support your growth.
What makes The Will To Change Unique?
🔥 Holistic Approach: This program combines the wisdom of a Spiritual Teacher, the work of bell hooks and the transformative guidance of a community of men providing you with a truly unique and holistic experience.
🌟 Personalized Support: myisha will guide you every step of the way, providing individual attention and personalized strategies to suit your unique journey.
💫 Community Connection: Join a supportive community of like-minded individuals, where you'll share experiences, inspire one another, and celebrate each other's growth.